Stay C-A-L-M

When we apologize to someone, it's often because we lost our temper and said something we later regretted. Anger is a normal human emotion, but it becomes a problem when we don't know how to handle it in a healthy, constructive way.

To take control of your anger, remember this acronym: C-A-L-M

1) Cognitive Restructuring

Negative thinking causes us to feel resentful. Here are ways you can control the messages you send yourself:

- Look for humor in a situation instead of heartache.

- Acknowledge that something is frustrating but not worth losing your cool over.

- Step back from your emotions and try to see the situation logically.

2) Assertiveness

You can be assertive without being aggressive if you are unjustly accused of something, state you case clearly and concisely without getting nasty and defensive. That will earn you respect, and when you feel respected, you will have less reason to get angry.

3) Laying Back

Deep breathing, visualization and other forms of relaxation are key to calming the angry spirit . Remember the old saw about counting to 10 before you respond to someone who makes you mad? simply slowing down your reactions - and getting much needed oxygen to the brain - can often help to stabilize out of control emotions.

4) Memory Aids

Mnemonic devices help keep us on track with any new initiative. Try wearing a bracelet, plain rubber band or other concrete reminder to help you focus on controlling your anger.